He Said She Said Game: 60 Questions + Free Printable

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1. How the game works
2. How to play, step by step
3. Getting honest answers from the couple
4. Around the house
5. The love story
6. Personality and habits
7. Who is more likely to…
8. The wedding and beyond
9. The quote version
10. The live version at the party
11. Scoring and tiebreakers
12. Prize ideas
13. More couple games for the shower
14. Questions hosts ask

How the game works

It’s a quiz about the couple, and the guests are the contestants. Every question has three possible answers: he, she or both. The couple decides the real answers ahead of time, and guests find out at the shower how well they read the pair.

Guests who know only one half of the couple are on equal footing with everyone else, which is why it works well at a shower where the two families are just getting to know each other. It takes 15 to 20 minutes for 30 questions and suits groups from about 6 to 50.

There’s a second form of the game too, where guests hear a quote and decide which partner said it. We cover that version further down.

How to play, step by step

1. A week or two before the shower, pick 20 to 30 questions and ask the couple to answer each one: he, she or both.
2. Enter their answers in the maker. They print only on the answer key.
3. At the shower, hand out a sheet and a pen to each guest. Guests circle he, she or both for every question.
4. Read the answers aloud from the key, or reveal them one at a time in Play mode on a TV. Pause on the surprising ones and let the bride tell the story.
5. One point per correct answer. Highest score wins.

Getting honest answers from the couple

Ask the bride and her partner separately. If they answer together, they’ll negotiate, and the answers get polite and boring.

When they disagree, you have two good options. Mark it “both,” or keep the bride’s answer and read the partner’s version aloud as a bonus. The second makes for a better moment, since “who is messier” rarely has two matching answers.

Keep the key away from the bride’s best friends. They will try to peek.

Around the house

Everyday habits give couples plenty to disagree about, and guests who’ve visited their home will have an edge.

1. Who is the better cook?
2. Who does the laundry?
3. Who is messier?
4. Who kills the bugs?
5. Who controls the TV remote?
6. Who hogs the blanket?
7. Who wakes up first?
8. Who snores louder?
9. Who takes out the trash?
10. Who loads the dishwasher “the right way”?
11. Who has more clothes?
12. Who leaves the cabinet doors open?

The love story

1. Who said “I love you” first?
2. Who made the first move?
3. Who is more romantic?
4. Who plans date night?
5. Who is the better gift giver?
6. Who apologizes first after an argument?
7. Who is more likely to forget an anniversary?
8. Who fell in love first?
9. Who remembers the details of their first date better?
10. Who writes the sweeter cards?

Personality and habits

Light, quick questions that anyone can take a shot at.

1. Who takes longer to get ready?
2. Who is more likely to be late?
3. Who spends more money?
4. Who is the pickier eater?
5. Who sings in the shower?
6. Who is the bigger baby when sick?
7. Who is more competitive at games?
8. Who is the better driver?
9. Who is more likely to get lost?
10. Who is more likely to cry at a movie?
11. Who is the better dancer?
12. Who is more patient?
13. Who is the night owl?
14. Who would win a trivia night?

Who is more likely to…

The silliest group. Save a few of these for the end, when the room is warmed up.

1. Who is more likely to adopt a pet without asking?
2. Who is more likely to plan a surprise party?
3. Who is more likely to fall asleep during a movie?
4. Who is more likely to eat the last slice of pizza without asking?
5. Who is more likely to lock themselves out of the house?
6. Who is more likely to start a conversation with a stranger?
7. Who is more likely to buy something they saw in an online ad?
8. Who is more likely to get a speeding ticket?
9. Who is more likely to burn dinner?
10. Who is more likely to forget where they parked?
11. Who is more likely to go viral online?
12. Who is more likely to order the same thing every time?
13. Who is more likely to binge a whole TV season in one weekend?
14. Who is more likely to say “I told you so”?

The wedding and beyond

1. Who is more excited about the wedding?
2. Who has done more of the wedding planning?
3. Who will cry first during the vows?
4. Who will be first on the dance floor at the reception?
5. Who picked the honeymoon spot?
6. Who handles the budget?
7. Who will want to host the holidays?
8. Who is better at keeping in touch with family?
9. Who will suggest the first road trip as a married couple?
10. Who will say “I do” louder?

The quote version

In this version, you ask both partners the same open questions and write down exactly what each one says. At the shower, you read a quote aloud and guests decide whether he said it or she said it. It takes a bit more prep, but the answers can be funnier because they’re in the couple’s own words.

Ask each partner separately, by text or over coffee. These prompts get good quotes:

• Describe your first date in five words.
• What did you think the first time you met?
• What’s your partner’s worst habit?
• What’s the best meal your partner makes?
• What will your partner be like at 80?
• What’s the most annoying thing your partner does in the car?
• What was your partner wearing when you met?
• What’s one thing your partner can’t live without?
• Where would your dream vacation together be?
• What’s the secret to a happy marriage?

Write each answer on the sheet, numbered, with a “he” and “she” box to tick. Mix up the order so guests can’t spot a pattern. Twenty quotes (ten questions, both answers) is a good length.

The live version at the party

If the couple is at the shower together, play it live. Seat them back to back in two chairs. Each holds one of their own shoes and one of their partner’s. You read a question, and each raises the shoe of whoever they think the answer is. When they match, the room cheers. When they don’t, the room loves it even more.

The same questions work, and it’s popular at wedding receptions and rehearsal dinners, too. Keep it to 12 or 15 questions so it stays quick, and have guests keep score on paper if you want a winner.

Scoring and tiebreakers

One point for each correct answer. If the couple marked “both,” only “both” counts; guests who picked one person don’t get the point.

For a tie, ask one bonus question with a number answer, like “How many months did they date before the proposal?” Closest guess wins.

Prize ideas

A small prize tied to the couple is a nice touch: a bag of the coffee they drink every morning, a candle from their favorite shop, a mini bottle of champagne for adults, or a box of chocolates. Or keep it simple with a small plant or nice hand cream.

More couple games for the shower

If you want a game that’s all about the bride, our how well do you know the bride questions has 100 of them and a matching printable quiz. For bingo, a word scramble and more, see our free printable bridal shower games. Planning the wedding itself? Our wedding reception games for guests has ideas for every table. You’ll find more on the bridal shower games hub.

Questions hosts ask

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